I Knew What I Wanted. I Just Had No Idea How to Get There.
I knew the life I wanted. I could feel it. But my reality was so far from that vision that I had absolutely no idea where to begin. This is one of the hardest parts of my transformation, and something I wish I'd understood years ago.
I Wasn’t Lost. I Was All Over the Place.
I knew exactly what I wanted, so why was I feeling so lost? I realized my vision hadn’t changed. I was simply trying to do everything at once. Sometimes finding clarity isn’t about making another plan. It’s about giving your attention to what’s already in front of you.
Who Is Weighing You Down?
Sometimes the person weighing us down isn't someone else. It's the version of ourselves we learned to be years ago. The woman who kept the peace, needed approval, and put everyone else first. What happens when we finally give ourselves permission to make different choices?
Reinvention Is Not Becoming Someone New
We tend to think reinvention means becoming someone completely new. I don’t believe that. I think it’s about deciding which parts of your old self come forward, which ones stay behind, and finally choosing the woman you’ve been imagining all along.
I Wanted Peace. I Didn’t Realize It Would Be This Quiet.
I wanted peace. I just didn’t realize peace was going to be this freaking quiet. When you stop participating in the gossip, complaints and relationships that drain you, you may finally get the space you wanted. Then comes the harder question: what do you put in that space now?
I Spent a Lot of Time Noticing What Made Me Unhappy
For a long time, I was very good at noticing what wasn’t working in my life. I could analyze it, talk about it and think about it endlessly. Eventually, I realized awareness wasn’t the problem. I already knew. The question was what I was going to do about it.
You Don’t Have to Participate
I used to think caring meant getting pulled into whatever everyone around me was feeling.
Then I realized something: compassion and participation are not the same thing.
So... How Is That Year You Planned Going?
Somehow, it’s already August. But instead of worrying about the goals you haven’t checked off, maybe it’s time to ask a better question: Is the way you’re living actually taking you where you want to go?