The Energy You Build Your Life With

The Energy You Build Your Life With: A Morning Conversation That Sparked a Bigger Truth

The other morning, as I was sitting in my sister’s kitchen — one of those slow, grounding mornings — we poured some mate, sat at her gorgeous wooden table, and simply talked. The kind of conversation that starts casually, but then quietly unfolds into something much bigger.

We started talking about our homes. Not just the walls or the furniture — but the feeling inside them. The atmosphere. The energy that either expands you or slowly drains you.

At one point, my sister said something that landed so clearly:

“I don’t think we would’ve achieved what we’ve achieved — in any area of life — if we didn’t feel deeply at peace and expanded in the places we live.”

And she’s right.

We often speak about "success" in terms of business milestones, personal goals, income, visibility. But very few people talk about how much our environment — our home — holds everything together. It’s not just about how pretty or organized it looks, but about how it feels to be there. How your nervous system softens when you walk through the door. How your mind quiets because the space reflects who you are becoming.

The truth is:

You cannot hold expansion when you feel contracted in your own home.

This really hit me again on this trip. In the past, coming back home after traveling used to feel heavy. I’d open the door and instantly feel overwhelmed. For me, it looked like a war zone. For the ones who stayed home? It looked “decent enough.” And that disconnect between what I saw and what they saw used to frustrate me to no end.

Over time, I realized something:

I wasn’t lowering my standards — I was lowering my expectations.

To protect my peace.

To stay aligned.

To not allow unnecessary frustration to pull me out of the grounded, elevated energy I’ve worked so intentionally to embody.

Because I know how easily that frustration can spiral — how quickly a moment of overwhelm can unravel hours, even days, of feeling good and connected to my higher self.

Now, I approach it differently.

I intentionally schedule my first full day back home as a reset. Cleaning, reorganizing, laundry, candles lit, soft music playing. Not from a place of frustration — but from a place of energetic recalibration. It’s no longer about “fixing” what was wrong, but about lovingly bringing my space back into resonance with who I am now.

Because as we evolve, our homes need to evolve with us. They are extensions of our inner world.

Our homes quietly shape our lives in ways we rarely stop to notice.

The energy you allow in your home becomes the energy you build your life with.

And for me, that energy needs to reflect expansion, clarity, and peace — not chaos, not compromise, not old patterns that no longer fit.