Let’s Make Extraordinary Our New Average
I was talking with my sister the other day—the way we do when the coffee is hot and no one’s in a rush—and we stumbled into one of those big, sticky questions:
“What if extraordinary became our new average?”
We both just went quiet for a second.
Because honestly? That’s the kind of question that makes you really think about your life.
How often do we tell ourselves:
This is fine.
I shouldn’t ask for more.
I don’t want to be greedy or unrealistic.
But who decided that fine was the goal?
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The Sneaky Trap of "Good Enough"
We laughed about how often we’ve both stayed in places too long—jobs, habits, moods—just because they felt safe.
Even if they were slowly draining us.
“Good enough” feels predictable. It doesn’t rock the boat.
But it also doesn’t light us up.
And somewhere along the way, we were taught that wanting more was wrong. That extraordinary was for other people.
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Who Decided What “Average” Even Is?
We sat with this question for a while:
Who even decided what “average” is?
Because let’s be real—it’s not universal.
It’s something we inherit.
We learn it from our families, our communities, our cultures, the leaders we listen to.
We absorb ideas about what’s “normal,” what’s “realistic,” what’s “too much.”
But those ideas come from their limitations, their fears, their version of safety.
And here’s the thing we realized:
In some circles, what feels extraordinary to us is just… normal life for them.
Not because they’re luckier or better, but because they gave themselves permission to think differently.
To expect more.
To make that their baseline.
So why does our average have to look the same as anyone else’s?
Why wouldn’t we question it?
Why wouldn’t we choose it for ourselves?
We get to decide what our normal looks like.
And that’s the most freeing part.
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Redefining Extraordinary
We talked about what “extraordinary” really means to us. And spoiler—it’s not fancy, perfect, or curated for social media.
It’s:
✨ Feeling alive in our own skin
✨ Being excited about what we’re creating
✨ Loving our people deeply
✨ Letting ourselves want what we want without shutting it down
It’s personal. It won’t look the same for everyone.
But the shared thread?
It’s intentional.
It’s refusing to live life on autopilot.
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Making It the New Normal
One of us half-joked, half-serious:
“What if this was normal? What if extraordinary was just how we did things?”
Not in an overachiever, hustle-til-you-drop way.
But in a grounded, soulful, “this is the life I actually want to live” way.
It’s a shift in mindset.
Instead of:
Can I really have that?
We ask:
Why wouldn’t I?
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Real Talk: It’s Not Always Comfortable
We also had to be honest with ourselves.
Choosing extraordinary isn’t always easy.
It can mean uncomfortable choices. Saying no. Letting go of what’s safe but stagnant.
It can mean backing ourselves even when it feels wobbly.
But we agreed:
It’s worth it.
Because at the end of the day, we want to be proud of the life we built—not just for what it looked like on the outside, but for how it felt to live it.
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Questions We Asked Each Other
We always seem to leave these chats with more questions than answers. But the good kind of questions.
If you want to reflect on this with us, here are some prompts:
🖋️ Where am I settling for “good enough” when I want so much more?
🖋️ What does extraordinary actually mean for me?
🖋️ Who taught me what “average” should be—and do I even agree?
🖋️ What would it look like to make that my new baseline?
🖋️ What small shift can I make this week to start?
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An Invitation for You
If you’re reading this, consider it your permission slip.
Not to make things perfect.
Not to chase someone else’s idea of success.
But to want what you really want.
To choose the version of your life that feels big, true, and deeply you.
To make extraordinary your new average.
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Join the Conversation
I’d love to hear from you:
✅ What does extraordinary mean in your world?
✅ How are you redefining your “normal” these days?
Leave a comment below, share with someone who’d love this, or just sit with these questions in your own quiet Sunday moment.
Thanks for hanging out for another Unfiltered Sunday.
Here’s to dreaming bigger—together. ❤️